Now, I've tried chore charts before. I've tried behavior charts before. There always seems to be a wonderful honeymoon period where these nifty, laminated, colorful management tools work. You know, for a few weeks you remember that instead of shouting at your child, you simply tell them to move their clip/picture/button down on their behavior chart and have them sit on their timeout chair/stair/mat/corner. They huff and pout, move their clip, sit, tell you they're sorry, and attitudes are changed. Viola! And everyone is happy. Until someone slips, forgets about the clip, and then the management tool goes into the back of the closet with the rest of the behavior modification tools you've tried. I totally get it. I too have a collection of said tools.
However, I am all about determination and finding what works. In our family we always talk about being a team. We discuss with our son how important it is that everyone in the family works together to keep the house clean, to support each other, to be there for each other. We are a unit, and therefore, must work together to keep our home safe and happy. Since The Monk can read and knows how important teamwork is in our house, I have included him in doing the chores that used to constantly overwhelm me. In short, I asked for his help.
We also needed something to help him track his behavior. As most parents with ADHD children know, structure is key. And so is knowing what expectations are. That's why The Monk has 3 things that he needs to do, every day. If he can get good marks for at least 3 days a week, we can have our Friday Family Fun night (that's a different post I think). This chart shows what he needs to do, as well as ties into our Jedi Training Academy. So far, it's working out pretty good.